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Preferences and a manageable choice
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Curiosity and a comfortable pace for meeting someone
Mila sees a new game. Someone is building a road. Mila watches. A grown-up is nearby.
You can point to Mila.
Listen, point, look, or leave any marks. Speaking, reading, and recognizable drawings are not required.
An unfamiliar child is making a road for cars in the sandbox. A bucket on the sand looks like a funny hat. Mila is curious, but she is not ready to come closer. She can watch beside a grown-up, wave, or say hello later.
How could Mila begin to get to know someone? You could add a detail to the road.
Color or look at the scene. Talking and adding to the picture are optional; a grown-up reads the story.
“Mila is interested and is watching for now.”
“You do not have to come closer right away. We can stay nearby.”
Do not call silence rude or require a greeting, a hug, or handing over a toy.
Put the sheet aside, stay available, and make things safe. Do not demand an explanation. Offer closeness or a hug without insisting.
Mila can choose to watch or join in. Neither choice means she has failed.